Unconditional Love

This term has literally spoiled many relationships across the world.  Let me start with the most important thing

There is no such thing as unconditional love.

When buddha was enlightened, the compassion he had for the world can be called as unconditional love. This term doesn't apply to us. The only way to experience unconditional love, is to see god or become god yourself.

For us, every love we have is conditional in some way or the other right from parents providing to their kids to best friends helping each other to facebook likes. And thats what makes it beautiful. There is nothing wrong with it. We as people fill each other's gaps and thats what makes us complete and thats what makes this world complete.

Mothers day

On the occasion of mother's day, I would like to wish all the wonderful mothers of the world especially my mom and wanted to write a few words and here it goes. 

I have observed that one of the things that will keep anybody going is knowing that they are an inspiration to somebody out there. We try very hard every moment of our life doing the best we can, to be a role model to our parents, family, kids and society at large. In this time and age inspite of having good jobs, family, kids, we feel like something is missing. I am sure everybody might have thought atleast once about the purpose of their life. What have they achieved in their life? Was their life really useful? Nobody really knows if they are able to make any difference. So it's good to make a practice to tell somebody/anybody out there if they really made a difference.

As life passed through, I realized one thing. when you want to save yourself from a hurricane you need a strong pillar (or rock). And life is full of hurricanes that they can sweep you off your feet. If the pillar (or the rock) itself moves, it is no good. My mom is a strong pillar. Absolutely strong. Whatever happens, if you talk to her, she may have a solution in her own way. Having lived through her life, maintaining sanity, and getting to this point without a single cent in hand, with no guarantees about the future is not a joke. I can never imagine being able to achieve that feat in life. 

Lot of good things to write about her. To never give up attitude, to keep going whatever people say or think, to simply doing your job inspite of whatever is happening around. These qualities require strong will and faith. These are not easy to get. A person achieving these is nothing short of a miracle. Our patience levels have come down in general. Now-a-days we are seeing a lot of people getting to their breaking point. I myself wanted to give up a lot of times in my life. Maintaining sanity (without external stimuli) in this time and age is not easy with jobs and living (in general) becoming tougher by the day. For every problem I get, every tough situation I face, I always think that what is this compared to what my mother faced in her life. Just that very thought will give enough strength to get me going. 

Being born in a family with a tradition/belief of not saying good things out loud, at some point it will become extremely difficult to appreciate things people are doing for us. But I am here to say out loud that my mother has been an inspiration. 

I am sure all the mothers in the world are great and inspirational in some way. They go through several sacrifices every single day to keep the family going. I want to take a moment to tell you all that somebody might be thinking that you are their inspiration. Please feel happy knowing that you are making a difference in this world and your life is absolutely useful in shaping the future generations and giving them strength and hope to continue in a good path.

Happy Mothers day to all

A taste of unknown

Recently I had the opportunity to go on a cruise. As we boarded and the ship started to sail, I was looking outside. Looking back, it was the known land. comforting, safe. Looking forward, it is the unknown, vast ocean, no end in sight. Not sure how the travel is going to be, not sure when we will reach the destination or even IF we will reach the destination. On the other side, it is soothing music of the activities inside the ship. Really comforting.

At night, when you look outside, it is the thunderous sound of the ocean, really scary and on the other side it's the sound of the happy people traveling with you, sound of the kids having fun, sound of the holiday music playing around. Once you are inside, you don't even know or realize the scare of the unknown. All you hear is the safe and happy sounds which are really comforting. You are completely absorbed by the feeling of the happiness of the current moment you are experiencing

We tend to stick with the past because of the fear of unknown as it gives us comfort in our life. But then I realized the only way to get through the unknown vast life, without knowing what happens tomorrow, without knowing if there will be a tomorrow is to get more involved in life, just lose yourself in life, live it and live it fully and happily.  

Moving on

There are a lot of gaps that exist in our life. It's not easy to fill those gaps. For example there is a gap that exists between our capability and what we want to achieve. There is a gap that exists between our patience and the kind of responsibilities we want to handle, our ability to love and the desire to be loved, our capacity and energy to do things and our need to grow.

In the course of our life's journey we come across many people and things that we tend to stick with, and get used to, as time passes. And if they help us in filling some of those gaps that we have, we get more used to them. If by any chance we have to part ways with either those people or things, it's not easy to move on. We feel like a part of us is just going away. It's not easy to move on

The only way is to identify the gap in us that makes us attach to the person or thing that we have to part with. There will be something. Identifying that gap might help you in your journey to move on